Every new year were told to cleanse our wardrobes, detoxify our bodies and start the year afresh, but what about our friend closets? I’ve recently been reading the life changing magic of not giving a fuck and after myself applying the not sorry technique, I’ve realised that I’ve only got a limited number of fucks to give. Enter the friend cleanse.
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The Friend Cleanse
Now this may sound pretty cut throat but I’m not talking about cutting out all of my friends and just keeping a couple that I see all of the time. no no no! Not what I’m talking about. Just like my body I want to detoxify my friend closet and save the fucks I’m giving to people who really aren’t using their fucks up on me, for those who are more worthy of my fucks. . you see?
For a long time now I have certain friends that I see regularly despite constantly coming away feeling like a bag of shite and put it down to something else. I always think, “but we get on so well” “but she needs me” “but I don’t think she meant it like that” and eventually you come to a point where you have to stop making excuses for someone.
I’m super lucky to have quite a lot of friends and a pretty generous handful of gem friends. These girls come over when I’m ill with soup and buy me my favourite flowers when I’m down because my boyfriend just went away for 6 months. They invite me round to dinner to beat the loneliness and send me hand written letters just to make me smile. Now I’m not saying that I expect all friends to be like that and any who aren’t wont survive the friend cleanse, these girls are super humans but all I’m asking is to not make me feel like a bag of warmed up crap . . is that so much to ask?
Sorry for the language in this post girls but when you’re talking about giving a fuck, you kind of have to say fuck a fair few fucking times. ok? And quite frankly, I’d rather save my fucks for the friends I love.
Outfit Details
*Coat : Missguided
Jumper : ZARA
Scarf : ZARA
*Jeans : Miss Pap OLD
Boots : Topshop OLD
*Bag : Jigsaw
*Necklace : Missoma
*Watch : Henry London
Totally relate Sinead! It’s awful coming to the conclusion that a friend isn’t really a friend anymore but you have to preserve your own sanity. Also how gorgeous is that pink sweater?! Love the post, Judith xx
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I know right? It’s so so so cosy as well! Losing friends is sad but then we can make more time and energy for those that really matter!
As hard as it can be, it’s sometimes for the best to let a friend go from your life x
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You’re totally right there hun!
How do you manage to make those glasses look so gorgeous? The pinks in this post are so on trend and very ss17! I like my small friendship group, it’s so nice to not have to spread myself too thinly as well.
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I totally get what you mean! Quality over quantity! Haha I don’t know if I do but thanks so much hun!
Amen girl! I vowed this year that I would concentrate on true friends and give way less fucks about the people who made me feel shitty! (excuse the language) x
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Love this! I need to do this this year! Did it work!?
You go girl! i think 2017 has to be the year we take out the negativity and if someone doesn’t give enough to you and your’e always giving to them, maybe it isn’t the right relationship to be a part! You’re such a star!
Plus, I just LOVE all the pink!
x
Shloka
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Thanks so much my love! And Y E S !!! Lets blitz these people out!
YAS Sinead! We need to look out for ourselves, and any other person that makes you feel crappy is NOT a good friend! Xxx
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EXACTLY!
I know that you’re SO right Sinead but I find it sooo hard to say fuck to people, even the ones who treat me like trash.. I was going to order this book anyway but now I want to read it even more!
All tips on detoxing the friends closet are welcome 😉
We can’t forget to talk about your outfit. I like the way you combined different tones of pink & I’m in love with the scarf!
xox Lyn
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Oh you definitely need to read it hun you sound just like me!
Girl I totally get you. What’s the point in keeping people who don’t make you feel your best or even worse, they bring you down. Nope nope nope. Not worth the waste of energy whatsoever.
Creepers & Cupcakes
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Exactly! Well said!
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Yes! So glad you agree lovely!
Loving all these positive posts from people, I really hope they continue through the year.
This book and Ms Knight has a lot of good stuff to say. I’ve just ordered her other book. 🙂
It’s definitely best to phase these ‘friends’ out of your life. It also makes space for new people to come into your life that you were maybe holding back.
Caroline.x
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I totally agree! It will be a shame if they fade out as the year goes on!