I’ve been putting off writing this post for a while. I don’t want people to read this and think is she talking about me? or feel targeted, embarrassed or defensive. I want people to read this and think, it happens to everyone. Because when it comes to social climbing, the blogging world is rife. Add fashion week to the mix and it’s a whole new kettle of fish.
I know a lot of people who read my blog and follow me on instagram would consider me as someone who has “made it” whatever that constitutes. Personally, I’m happy, I’m comfortable and I’m doing what I love for a living, I guess you could say I’d agree that I’ve made it, because quite honestly, what more could you want? Other than 10k more instagram followers of course.
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I’m in a unique position when it comes to what a lonely place fashion week and blogging can be because I’ve got my sister Lauren. Yes we argue constantly and sometimes I wish I’d never see her again but realistically, having her by my side is an absolute pleasure and something I will never take for granted. This fashion week I experienced social climbing on such a level that I honestly at one point felt like the unpopular girl in the playground with people running away from me. “How about I let you know how it is” – in other words don’t come with me. Selfies taken with your face conveniently covered by an arm or a blanket of hair, instagram stories where you wouldn’t even have know I was sat silent and embarrassed in the back and group pictures appearing on instagram moments after I left.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t judge these people, when it comes to instagram social classes I’m a peasant with 70k and they’re high society, it’s the instagram food chain and I’m at the bottom. A friend can be a friend but an instagram friend is only your friend until someone with more followers walks in and you can instantly see them nodding and smiling and waiting for the polite time to leave and speak to them. Hell you’re lucky if they even do that. There is no shame in this game.
When I come back from LFW my friends always ask what was it like? Was it amazing? and quite honestly it gets to a point where you wonder if it’s worth it. Then next year rolls around and you forget about all of this. Slowly but surely, each year I’m learning who the liars, the fakers and the social climbers are and who my crowd is. The girls that go out of their way to see you, the girls that never cancel plans and support you. Those girls are my girls.
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Such an interesting read beaut and I couldn’t agree more, which is primarily why I couldn’t face fashion week this year! So good that you have that little support around you – it can be so isolating and the worst when people judge whether or not to like you based on your following! Keep doing you beaut x
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Thats so interesting lovely! I did miss you at the events! Hopefully we can catch up soon!
I get you babe I totally get you, I’m even lower down on the food chain with my number of followers and I could see it happening to me, where girls would just walk away mid conversation or just simply not respond or even want to speak to me solely because they didn’t think I was worth their time right now. It’s sad because as we grow they might make time for us but what’s the point if it’s not genuine…So good of you to open up babe!
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Shloka
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It’s just so horrible! I honestly cannot beleive people treat others in this way I hope to god no one ever thinks that I made them feel in that way!
That sounds awful. Being frozen out by others on Twitter is something I see a lot, but it’s shocking to think people would behave like that in person. I get that these events are golden networking opportunities but surely make a few strong, genuine connections are better than as many as possible.
I think it’s great you made this post. Even if someone reading this wonders if you’re talking about them, hopefully it’ll make them think about the way they treat people.
Laura \ http://thatgallowaygirl.com/
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Oh the twitter ice is so real! I’ve been on the receiving end of some horrible behaviour on twitter! It’s awful how people can be on there!
I don’t think I will ever feel like I “made it” I think its shocking to see anyone change who they are because they hit a number or a status. IG isn’t anything more than numbers, and with the amount of fake numbers now I barely trust any of it. I know people with 100K+ who interact and are the sweetest people I know, but then there is people at 20K who think it’s alright to be rude. It shocks me how mean some people can be 🙁
Erin || MakeErinOver
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You are so right! Some people have bad manners full stop!
I completely understand your point of view. I feel like no matter what you do, there will always be people who will think of you as inferior to them, which is sad and completely sucks. But it shows more about them than you. They’re probably missing out on how great of a person you are so it’s their loss! x
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Ah thank you so much lovely! It’s a massive shame but honestly it happens so much! I think it was just the amount and extent to which it happened at LFW that really got me!
As awful as this is, especially being something you’ve experienced. As you said, it’s enlightening to know that it basically doesn’t matter who you are and that yes, girls can just be bitchy.
I’m pretty naive in that I just don’t get why we can’t all just get on. Especially put in a face to face situation, it makes social media seem even more fake, when people profess we’re a ‘community’ and that they love everyone.
It feels awful knowing that even when you think you’ve found your people, they can/could turn on you. It makes this whole hobby and experience very lonely.
Just stay true to yourself and don’t lose your own morals.
Caroline.x
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You’re so right lovely but it honestly just makes it that much more special when there are people around who surprise you and stand out for the others!
if you’re a “peasant” at the bottom with 70k i dread to think how people see me :-(!!!! how depressing! xx
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Oh babe seriously I think that there will always be people above you that will think they are too important. Those people don’t matter.
This was so sad! Remember that while there will always be someone out there with more subscribers or instagram followers or whatever… success is a measure you set yourself! <3
Katie | katieemmabeauty.com
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I totally agree lovely! I have moments where I think about numbers and it’s hard not to concentrate them but then I look at everything I’ve acheived which is so so much more important!