I sometimes feel like I have too many friends, throughout life we gain friends in everything we do. Every new job or school, going to university and moving to a new city all brings new friends and what happens to the old ones? If everyone were to stay in touch with every friend they’d ever make it would be exhausting. Basically you would have a hell of a lotta friends, and not too many good friends, this is why not having many good friends is a good thing!
For me, I’ve started to realise since blogging and styling and social media-ing and god knows what else, that I just don’t have a lot of spare time. Bearing that in mind I’ve sort of decided to stop clinging on to friendships that died long ago, instead investing that time in the friends I love and who love me in return.
I’m about to get soppy here, but me and my friends (my close friends) who I went to college with have a pretty close relationship. Although there’s a lot of us, and we may not all see each other as often as we’d like, we’ve always got each others backs. I’ll always remember when I had a cold a couple of years ago and they brought round cards, soup, a mug, tissues and my favourite sweets. Basically, they took the place of my non existent boyfriend.
Why not having many friends is a good thing
I think that the older you get, the more apparent it becomes who you’re real friends are and with blogging I am constantly gaining new friends who have so much in common and who I can share the experience with. This is why I’ve decided to stop clinging on to the friendships of my past and invest in my besties!
As with anything, it’s quality over quantity and for that reason I think that not having many friends is a good thing, it means you can spend more time on the friendships that have stood the test of time!
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I totally agree, having a few close friends is far more reassuring than having so many plus it’s far more easier to round up the troops when you need them 🙂
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Exactly! I’m not big on huge groups anyway to be honest!
I definitely agree. I’ve never had a lot of friends, being the shy, introverted type who just didn’t make friends easily. In fact, I can count on one hand the no of friends I have. But I know they love me, and I love them. And they’ve got my back, just as I’ve got theirs. It’s definitely quality over quantity when it comes to friends. Loved this post! x http://www.aimeeraindropwrites.co.uk x
Glad you liked it lovely! And totally agree with you! I have so many friends but the ones i love i could count on one hand two hands max!
I’ve never had a lot of friends, just a few really close friends that I’ve kept in touch with over several years and I agree. I don’t need a lot of friends and it definitely makes me appreciate the few good friends I do have 🙂
Exactly! I totally agree with this, I’d rather have one good friend than 10 ok friends!!
I barely talk to any of the people I thought were my close friends from High school. What’s weird about that is, they were the ones that stopped talking to me when I moved one town over. We lived in a really small town and had to travel to the one I eventually moved to, to do any kind of shopping. So them acting like I moved across the country was pretty shitty of them. Then when I was making plans and actions to move out of state I told them all 3 months in advance when I was moving and not a single one of them tried to spend time with me until the day before I was leaving, and at that point I couldn’t go anywhere because my car was attached to be back of the U-haul. So I kind of don’t really trust people to be a real friend to me. That was just the nail in the coffin of those feelings that had been building up over the course of my life. I’m still friendly with people but I don’t really know if I have more than one real friend.
This is such a shame! Those people clearly weren’t your true friends! I’m kind of the opposite, I have so many people I’ve met over the years and try to stay in touch with, I end up overstretching myself and letting people down! This is why I’ve decided that I’ve got too many friends so from now on I’m focusing on the ones that matter!!
It was more hurtful at the time, now I’m fine with it. That was almost 10 years ago.
That’s awful hun they were taking the proverbial piss, with friends like those who needs enemies. You are better off without and hopefully make better friends xx
definitely!
I’m pretty okay with not really having “friends”. I am terrible at small talk, and I like my alone time.
I definitely agree, quality over quantity.
I’ve always been shy and never found it easy and still don’t really, to make friends.
I’m not good friends with anyone from school(prim or sec) and same with college. My friends are those from jobs and also from a Bootcamp as first times mums.
I think people sometime confuse acquaintances with friends.
Caroline.x
I agree with this! I feel like I’m an all or nothing kind of person!!!
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Totally!
I agree with you so much. I would rather have a small group of close friends who I know are there for me, rather than a massive group of friends who are not there for you when you need them the most.
Alicia x
Totally, I don’t have the time for too many! I’d rather concentrate on the ones I love!
Real friends are like diamonds, social media has seen the rise in ‘friends’ fair weather friends more likely! A select few is really where it is at xx
SO TRUE
Quality over Quantity for sure! Having one or two encouraging friends is much better than having a crowd of people that you’re not sure you can really trust.
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Exactly my thoughts!